Most women have it good in today’s society, albeit a few struggles. What we do though is harp on how EASY men have it.
Have you ever taken a step back and actually thought about it? Have you ever envisioned what it must be like for our men?
Envision a little boy, innocent, sweet, full of love and joy. Which fades into aggressiveness and muscle when they are sent to pre-school, taught to be *nice* to girls as they are weaker while the girls can do what they want and the little boy will only have to endure it, because they are girls and you are a boy.
Envision his teenage years, all through high school and college he hears of stories about rape and orgies and that MEN ARE SEX PREDATORS; let alone anything else. He is subjected to a stream of negative images and portrayals of men, while that is exactly what he will grow up to be, a MAN.
Boys, remember when you finally realised when your parents actually called you a *YOUNG MAN.* You became more aware of all the pretty *YOUNG* women around you and all you wanted to find is a sweet simple girl to fall in love with and marry and begin a family. You are a nice guy, but girls have been through college too and they’ve heard all those stories of girls raped by *nice guys* just like you. You want to love but are jaded instead.
Imagine our young men sent to the military or navy or merchant navy. While serving your country is honourable, engaging in war can have its repercussions. You watch as some of the men you served with go home in coffins and this doesn’t allow you to sleep at night because it haunts you. You have health problems no one cares about. You are after all a man and it is MEN who started wars, right?
Envision what it must be like for men who’ve given up on marriage because if in case it doesn’t work out, the family court system is against you anyway. You risk losing everything you have ever built. You also don’t want your non-existent children to go thru the hatred. You don’t want to put him through anything. You’re afraid a divorce may destroy your image in his eyes, as he watches his mother who left you, rename you a BASTARD and doesn’t have one nice thing to say about that little boy’s father, although they have shared happy times.
You are not a coward but it’s better to never have loved at all than lose what you love. Society has named you a liar, loser, pedophile, maniac, predator, loner, psycho, desperate and lots of other derogatory names. There has to be something wrong with you, you just can’t be normal!
We have spent enough time going on about how terrible they are, but in honesty they are not. This post is to celebrate the men in our lives. To let them know that although we complain, we are grateful. We admire them and love them! They make us happy and say “YAY!”
How many of these men have gone up burning buildings to save lives, fully aware of the fact, it’s a climb to their own doom. How many of them have been on the frontline of battles to protect their countries, their homes and their families? Fully aware that it was their life they were giving up.
How many husbands, fathers, boyfriends, brothers, fiancés work all day at a boring and thankless job, just so he can provide for his family? They never complain, never question. They just work. I’m not asking for pity and help for these men, instead we want to appreciate and thank them for all they do for us.
Honestly, I love my men, not in an “I’m a slut and men are great at that” way. I love all their flaws and imperfections and characteristics and euphemisms that make them MEN. I could go on about these brilliant traits but I don’t have the time or blog space.
So here’s a cheer to all the MEN that feel unappreciated. We do notice things and love you loads. You may think we take you for granted and don’t notice the details, while most of us don’t, we would like to thank you for that too!
I know if there was anything gruesome that needed doing, like killing a cockroach, I’d call my man.
None of us argue in the car with the man if there’s a flat tire, we both know who’s going to fix it!
If there is anything repulsive to be done, I wouldn’t be doing it. Not because I refuse, I wouldn’t have to; I know Karan (my man) will do it!
May a time we have offered, but shot down because the men in our lives can handle it. Because they are there to protect us and provide for us. Do not deny them that right.
So all you #Yaymen out there, THANK YOU. We want all you men who go around silently feeling unappreciated although you sacrifice so much for us to know that you are loved. To know we draw from your strengths and we wouldn’t be strong if not for you!
You may be underappreciated but you are definitely not unappreciated!!
Therefore, I pledge to OBJECTIFY, ADMIRE, and EXPRESS my gratitude for all the #Yaymen in my life. You are not applauded for your laurels (although that may help) or your achievements. You are a star for being a man, for being strong and we tip our hats to you.
You deserve the best!
If you would like to celebrate your man, please get onto Twitter, follow@shaktijs, @unitechy, @spitphyre, @limeice and me (@punkpolkadots) and join us in the celebration. You can applaud not only your husbands, but your brothers, fathers, nephews, cousins and anybody else who is male as long as they are on Twitter.
Stay tuned for how the #YaYmen process will move further!
Till then, my readers go hug your #YaYmen’s today and tell them how much they mean to you!!
Xoxo,
M.
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